Should men pay for women?

When I started dating, I always had this question in my mind: should men pay for women?

And yet, whomever I asked, I would never find a satisfying answer, all I could find is that men were afraid not to pay for women!

Yes, this is the reality we live in nowadays, men are afraid not to pay for women, whenever they are out with women, the first thing that would come to their mind is to pay for them in order to look like a gentleman and to be nice to them, but in reality, men are not obliged to pay for women!

However, this is not an answer to this question, it is because most men are not going to feel satisfied by such a conclusion, they are still going to think that there is something about it, and it is true!

So, should men pay for women?

The answer is very enigmatic: yes/no!

Yes, you should pay for a woman is you have invited her and if you are taking her out by your initiative, if you have told her that you would like to take her out for dinner for example, then you need to pay for her, however, the thing that you don't need to pay for her is when she is the one taking you out!

I still remember one day a girl at work needed some documents and some tweaks done on an article, so, she invited me to have a sandwich outside and discuss work, I accepted, and when we were done, I went and paid for the meal!

I immediately noticed that she felt really bad about this, she was argumentative and told me that she can pay for herself and for me when she is the one inviting!

I felt so ashamed and sorry too!

So, when she is the one inviting you, don't pay for her, let her take charge of her initiative.

However, there is also another no!

If you are going to pay for women just to prove that you are a man and just to make yourself feel happy and think that you are capable of attracting them, in other words, you are going to pay for them to feel attractive by buying them gifts and other ideas, you need to stop immediately!

You should never pay for a woman because you are attracted to her, you should never pay for a woman because you want to seduce her and you want to prove something to her, your money should never be and mean to attract people to you, let alone women!

One more thing, whenever you are out, don't buy stuff for women you don't know, like drinks, gifts, cards, meals etc. You will be heavily used by them!

Trust me; even the nicest women can use you when they find out that you are very generous with your money! Don't be surprised, after all, you are dealing with human beings, so, be careful when you are taking your credit card out, if you are trying to buy her affection and attraction, then, avoid this immediately.

So, should men pay for women?

If men are inviting, then, they need to pay for women, but if they are not, they need to mind their own business because most of the time, money is going to spoil everything and make a relationship difficult to withstand and be part of.